Full disclosure: My mother's one of those Conservatives I dislike so much. She also works for the government.
Here's parts of an e-mail discussion we just had, and some points I made, which tie into my above comments and I think put the debate in perspective. Her comments in italics:
"We should all be able to say and have Banners that say Merry Christmas without having to worrying about hurting the feelings of others. I would not mind seeing banners etc up that say Happy Hanukkah.etc. or being greeted by someone who says Shalom ,Happy Ramadan ( whatever) I would reply thank you and Happy Ramadan to you and if they were celebrating their
holiday" at Christmas time I would say "Merry Christmas as well.".because that is what I am celebrating !"
If you're putting up a Christmas tree in your house, cool. If you're putting up a Christmas tree in a public place (city hall, the mall) then you should put up a Menorah and a Muslim Crescent as well. Public places (like your work... which is funded through taxes taken from Muslims, Jews and Christians) should reflect the public, not the chunk of it that happens to be largest. Putting everything on equal ground recognizes reality by making things equal, it doesn't knock Christmas down a notch.
You can say whatever you want, nobody is stopping you, and I don't think anyone's "feelings are hurt" by putting up "Merry Christmas" banners. They might very well be offended though if public places in their own country refuse to recognize their traditions as equal simply because they are in a minority, or because white-bred WASP's feel every change to "their" country is some kind of threat. I don't think I need to tell you that you need not be born here to call this place home in your heart.
I also think you'd agree that common courtesy and being a polite human being would make you say "Shalom" back to someone, regardless of your beliefs or politics. Just as you put an exclamation point after "it's what I believe!" you have to also respect what others believe. (!) It's the same "Golden Rule" principal that I would hope keeps anyone from saying intolerant bullshit like "they" and "my country." Sadly, it doesn't. It's EVERYBODY'S country, and WE all have the right to walk into a public place, during whatever religious holiday is occurring, and see that reflected. The glory of all detracts from no one.
"Why should our greeting have to be Happy Holidays now, why can't we just say Merry Christmas because it is our Christmas, We can say Happy Hanukkah when Hanukkah starts , I respect everyone's "traditions" and I would like them to respect what I have been up to believe But when I am told not to say Merry Christmas because it is offensive to some, I say "hog wash" They can celebrate their way and I can celebrate my way."
Well, what I said above about public places applies here as well. But there's also a common sense issue: why as a public servant in a multicultural country, and a polite human being beyond that, would you want to greet someone with what you believe? You don't tell them your favourite colour, your sexual preference, or who you're voting for, so why do you feel the need to slip "I believe in celebrating the birth of Christ" into a greeting? Isn't it easier, not to mention far more polite and respectful, to just say "Happy Holidays" and cover everything and everyone?
To be honest, I think those in public work places who whine about not being able to say "Merry Christmas" are somewhat insecure. They see other beliefs as challenging their own, and so slipping their greeting in makes them feel like they're sticking up for the cause, like they're fighting for Christmas. The whole point of my letter is that there's no need to fight. Christmas isn't going anywhere. Other faiths don't diminish Christmas. They can all co-exist (and have for thousands of years) together. Instead of saying "Happy whatever the hell you celebrate, I myself will be celebrating Christmas," "Happy Holidays" provides us all with a pleasant greeting at a time when we're supposed to be embracing brotherhood. Those "my belief, my country" quacks have a fundamental problem with other people, other beliefs and the brotherhood that Canada embodies. Their ignorance and intolerance just bubbles to the top at this time of year. Be proud of being whatever you are, it doesn't require holding down others. Just like insecure people who are jealous of the attention others receive because of their looks or possessions, these goons don't like the idea that their beliefs aren't universally accepted and admired. Their real enemy is common courtesy and the "Golden Rule," they don't see others as equal.
"I agree that Schools should celebrate all faiths, religions etc but they should still be allowed to sing Christian carols because that is part of "us" What ever the songs are for other religions , then sing them as well. We are multi cultural yes, but we shouldn't have to CHANGE our ways to be that. We should just add the other cultural stuff to what we already do....
Have a nice day and Remember I love you!!!"
See, I love you too, even if I don't love your beliefs. And THAT'S where the problem and solution lay. If everybody would simply accept the fact that underneath the skin colour and religious traditions that our parents gave us, we're all exactly the same, we'd be able to shrug off the small differences among each other as we do with family members. You and I need to feel the same way about the beliefs of some guy with a turban on his head as we do about each others. Easy? No. Necessary? Yes.
As hard as it may be to accept, the world of 1955 is gone and never coming back. There is a new "us" and it includes others who have different beliefs. John Raulston Saul called Canada "the world's first post-modern nation" meaning that we don't have any traditions, we simply make them up as we go along... and that's why we've avoided ethnic conflict and built a country, unique on the planet, which says you can be anything: Sikh, Jew, Witch, or hell even a separatist, and still call yourself "Canadian." To me, that's worth fighting for. An important battleground over that fight right now is among liberals like me and those whose insecurity, ignorance and longing for 1955 make them fight for "what should be" instead of embracing "what is."
Love you,
Bye.