[Kim]

am all for people doing whatever they want as long as it doesnt hurt others.

I assume you're referring to physical pain there.
Aspiring not to hurt others emotionally is great but not always possible. I imagine that coming out in an environment, of which you're aware that it has strong views against homo-sexuality, can cause a great deal of pain amongst people living in that same environment (friends, family, community). However not coming out can result in a great deal of pain for yourself.

Making that final decision, knowing the risk you're taking, must be heart-breaking.



(In the meantime, over 2000 gay couples have been married in Holland :thumb: )